What’s Hiding in Your Mind?
Would you consider yourself to be a fearful person? Most
people would probably answer no to that question, yet fear is
one of the most common hindrances that people struggle with
today. The reason for this discrepancy may surprise you: fear
can easily disguise itself as seemingly logical beliefs,
thoughts and feelings so you may not even realize it’s
there.
Rather than using the word fear to describe their feelings,
many people might choose words like doubt, concern, worry,
anxiety, uncertainty, hesitation, apprehension,
procrastination, distrust or unease.
Ultimately they mean the same thing as fear. There is a
thought, feeling, belief, or possible outcome that makes you
feel uncomfortable or threatened and you will instinctively
avoid things that make you feel that way.
Here are some common fears that could be hiding in your
mind:
Fear of Failure
If you have ever held back on a goal or avoided taking
action that would lead to a positive outcome, you may have been
fearful that you might fail. Fear of failure can be subtle
because our minds can come up with endless excuses why it’s not
a good time to take a risk right now, or how the odds don’t
seem to be in our favor, and so on.
Fear of Success
It’s hard to believe that anyone could be afraid of success
(isn’t success usually a good thing?) but it’s far more common
than you might believe. Most often it’s not the success itself
that people fear, but rather all of the responsibilities and
uncertainties that come along with success. If you worry that
you won’t be able to handle these things, you will resist
putting yourself in a position where you would have to face
them.
Fear of Rejection
Fear of rejection is usually related to low self-esteem, but
may show up in subtle ways. You may lash out at others when a
possible rejection is imminent; sabotage relationships so you
can be the one who rejects the other person instead of them
rejecting you; or you may simply withdraw from social
interaction to avoid the possibility of being rejected at
all.
Fear of Not Being Good Enough
This is another fear that is connected to self-esteem, and
it often affects everything you do in life. You may avoid
making changes to improve your life; settle for a dissatisfying
job that pays less money than you are capable of earning; or
continuously sabotage your goals. If you don’t believe you
deserve to have better life circumstances you won’t allow
yourself to create them.
Once you have identified one or more of these fears, you can
begin diffusing them with mind and body techniques that will
calm your emotions, relax your body and get your thoughts
flowing in a positive direction again. For most people this
will be an ongoing process because our minds become conditioned
to respond to fear stimulus and it will seem to happen
automatically for some time. However, getting into the habit of
addressing the fear in new healthy ways should set a new
pattern to minimize the conditioned responses and even
eliminate them over time.
-----------------------------------------------------------------
Alternatively download the new Free ebook – 22 Powerful Tools
To Transform Your Fear Into Happiness, Peace and
Inspiration. Click Here Now To Get The FREE Ebook! –
Crammed full of valuable tips, exercises and ideas – it
could be the most important ebook you read this
year.
|